It has a lot to do with tolerance and accepting people for who they are. Friendships can be an awesome thing, but it can leave you open. You’re extremely vulnerable to the potentially gritty, negative side often birthed from being close to someone. It’s a risk, just like anything you do. After getting hurt and betrayed or just plain abandoned, I made peace with the fact that I’m a loner, but I still wonder… I mean, recently, whenever I do extend my hand in friendship and really make an effort, it doesn’t work out. Since I occasionally go out of my way, I guess I do believe that friends for life is possible and, to some extent, worth chasing.
Some people just click. There’s so many variables that could explain the “friends for life” phenomenon, but the bottom line is that some people just go well together. It takes a shit-load of luck and maintenance to keep the friendship alive, building that connection and all.
Most of my childhood friends changed up during middle school. Their personalities were vastly different, practically strangers, really. Sure, puberty played a major role in that, but… maybe it was the environment. For me, Middle School was comparable to 73 BC Rome. Add in all the gang violence and wanna-be thug bullshit, I’ll admit that I had trouble conforming—adapting to them. Hell, I went to a completely different high school, just to avoid them. Honestly, it was stupid, troubling times… but mostly stupid.
I do have one friend from way back in the elementary school days, but we’re polar opposites. I suppose he is my “friend for life,” but, over the years, I’ve grown into quite the pessimist. I’m calmly awaiting his visits to diminish. We’re already at that point. Not that I’m a perfectionist or anything, but I can barely hold a conversation with him and, other than our general appreciation for comic books, we really don’t have much in common. That’s it! Twenty-plus years of friendship, hanging by a mere thread of the funny books. It’s something, but it’s also a little sad.
Friends for life is indeed possible, but there’s no guarantee that it will be anything special.